How To Stop Feeling Miserable
Everyone can feel miserable from time-to-time and it affect our daily routine. Feeling miserable can be due to not meeting our own expectations, not being able to find the right job and set the right route for ourselves, or when we can't move on easily and set our minds free. There's no doubt that all sorts of experiences can foster feelings of misery in us.
On an optimistic point of view, a very important note for everyone is to know that life is one that should be enjoyed, to seek for memorable experiences and not to make us feel stuck, exhausted, miserable yet abide with it. Most importantly, we need to gather confidence and the willingness to change, because it sets the fundamental to dominate your circumstances and experiences. Read it on!
But before we get onto track, allow me to reinforce the importance and benefits of having a healthy mindset:
It is not something that last temporarily. A healthy mind can benefit us in the long-term, nurture healthier living habits and promote better physical health as well. One of the greatest gain that one can get with a healthy mindset is wisdom. As we learn to think optimistically about life, it will be easier to achieve higher consciousness. Higher consciousness is the ability to experience inner peace and liberate oneself from the limitations of physical reality. Here are 5 tips to start with:
1) Acknowledge your circumstances.
To resolve an issue, even if it seems insurmountable, it is crucial to find out the root cause first. It may be frustrating to feel uncontrollable of your environment and think about how you have to withstand unwanted results day after day. Acknowledging your negativity can allow you to think deeper and face the cons in your life that have resulted in the arousal of emotions. Subsequently, you can scribble down your thoughts on a piece of paper which later you can further evaluate, analyse and refer to it. Please keep that paper or note and add on further notes. This may seem like a hustle, but it can be more beneficial than you think to understand more about yourself.
2) Step onto the main track
All these while you have stood on the peripheral pathway, while your brain controls your actions. It is important for you to gain control over both your brain and environment, instead of being controlled by them. Although all of us are definitely restricted by our environment in some ways, we can learn how to control ourselves and our lives; How we want things to turn out for us. First step is to stop doing the things that make you dislike yourself. It could be work that brought you great distress with poor work-life balance, or having a habit that is hard to withdraw from, such as procrastinating or spending off budget. Start to make feasible plans about how you are going to change your behaviours, then finally apply it. Most importantly, you need to have a clear reason as to WHY you need to change certain things or else, you may fall off the main track again.
3) Avoid desires of perfection
The idea of perfecting oneself is often what drives people ill, as they keep challenging their abilities until the boundary is surpassed. 'Perfection' is just a standard that society has set, that drives innovation to secure their definitions of survival. Without worrying about where others are, you can rediscover the meaning of your life and restore the joy when you first found what makes your life uniquely yours.
4) Lend a listening ear.
It is definitely soothing when we realise we are not the only one who have been through that experience. As we listen to others' stories about their own struggles, our ability to empathize with them and provide them support, even if just being there and listening to them, will nourish a strange sense of emotional comfort for us. Two birds killed in one stone! advantaging both the you and the speaker.
5) Never be afraid to liberate yourself
Allow yourself to rest while your mind escapes from reality. No doubt, reality can be a real torture if you are not enjoying life. As we do not live up to our own standards, such as unable to find the right job that suits you, a friend that can accompany, and other kinds of toxic environment that surrounds us, we have to find something that we can really stick with for our own personal growth and wellbeing.
Some activities that I really appreciate for their existence are:
1) Reading
Fictional books provide me the imagination hence distracts myself from reality. Upon travelling to another magical world, the clearance of doubts and stress, allowed me rise again and forward my journey. It can be a great strategy for stress relieve and temporary escapism. The moments of joy, laughter and unworrying sorrow novel books brought for us can never be replaced by the hardships we faced in life.
On the other hand, non-fictional, those that talks about their personal experience, are very relatable and provided me with thoughts and insights about problems I faced in order to address them better. Fortunately, it did and I managed to bounce back several times. In the long-term, I countered them without much destruction.
As I travelled back to the past that created the present, I indulged in the way of life with little technology. Although the lectures sounded boring, sure enough, its history, I was always so drawn into the lessons. Rare footage of the historical moments shared me the joy people had back then when they laughed about silly jokes. I time-travelled as a result.
3) Planning itinerary trips.
Trips can be of a joy when it was planned well. In an itinerary trip I planned, it consisted of very simple things like going to a bookshop, a cafeteria or even have picnic at a nearby park. Simply put, I included pursuits that I would not engage in often. The main objective is to seek for relaxation and enjoyment for the small things mother earth has to offer.
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